Ditching Facebook

Precious
You can\’t possibly look at that face and tell me she is anything but adorable!Javier Delgado Esteban / Foter

I don’t know how many of you have heard about the latest fiasco involving Facebook? It seems that they now consider Down Syndrome kids and the Special Olympics to be reprehensible along the lines of “hate speech, support for violent organizations, and as threats to harm others”.

No I am not making this up. I almost wish I was.

What the f^@% are these people thinking? I am absolutely baffled. And fed up!

Sorry folks, but I have had it. I am removing my  personal Facebook page and this blog’s Facebook community page. You can still come directly here, or follow me on twitter. But I am done with Facebook. They have managed to f^@% it up one too many times. Their policies are getting weirder, there rules are inconsistent, and frankly, it’s one more social media thing that I can live without.

The following link is to an article by Shaun Heasley on the Disability Scoop website. It also links to another article with a video of the Mom and her kiddo. I think there is a petition going around somewhere in the Facebook universe, but I am done promoting them or anything about them so no link to that.

That’s it for me, I’ve had it. It’s been an emotional two days what with this whole Facebook fiasco and the tape of that darling little boy being verbally abused by his teachers. My heart just can’t take any more. It breaks a little more every time I hear, read or see another incident where a precious child is abused, put down, made fun of, disrespected, ignored or bullied. How much of a low life do you have to be to do that to a child…..a special needs child? You have to be lower than whale shit. Pardon my language. Like I said, it’s been a stressful couple of days.

I need a drink. It’s gonna be an early happy hour here today.

Lanie

Paper Work and Documentation (Your New Hobby)

With our special needs kiddos you have undoubtably accumulated a ton of paperwork! (Frankly, it’s my guess that my family alone has killed off a few million trees to document the range of diagnosis that they have)

I had to learn early on to be very proactive about organizing and figuring out a system that was going to work for me. (And that’s the key here…..find the system that is going to work for you!) Everyone works differently. When you do your research, find one that is simple enough for you to keep up with because trying to do a cram session can be detrimental to your family and your self. (I know of what I speak people…it can get scary when you are up to your ankles in paperwork for not just one kiddo but two….It was a dark day here at Team L; thankfully we all survived and I vowed to a) never speak of that day again and b) keep up with the influx of paper quarterly)

    

A few essential things to incorporate into your system are a separate envelope for your medical receipts, a folder/binder for your most current evals / test results and a thumb/flash drive.

First: the envelope for your receipts. This is so that at the end of the year you can gather them and submit them with your tax return and or if you have a MSA (medical savings account) you can attach them to your submission. You do not want to have to go through binder or files to dig these receipts out one by one. You will give up quickly and lose the opportunity to get reimbursed.

Second: a folder or binder for your current evals / test results. You can divide it up into two folders: one for evals the other for test results. The reason for this is because you do not want to be hauling around the entire binder system that documents your child. You only need the current data to engage the school / nurse / doctor / therapist, blah blah blah. You will pull your back out hauling the entire case load around. Once your year is up or a new eval has come in, immediately switch it out. Make sure you note that everyone who is supposed to get a copy has. This is your job, not the evaluators. Never assume. Always, take it upon yourself to supply the eval to all people who are concerned and who need it to keep working with your child. This includes his/her pediatrician, OT, Speech & Language, Chiropractic, Holistic, school therapist, school district, everyone!!

Third: a thumb drive (flash drive). This is a little time consuming, so I suggest taking this in steps. You are going to want to scan each document, starting from the paperwork that was generated from your kiddos birth all the way through their last check up or eval. I suggest once a month you pick an afternoon and work for a set amount of time….say 2 hours. Scan for about an hour and a half and then use the remainder of time to “organize the scans into folders by child’s initials and the year” this is important to do especially if you have more than one child. Don’t forget to include a copy of their birth certificate and a copy of your insurance card and your drivers license. Why should you do all of this? Because, G-d forbid there is a disaster, natural or otherwise, you are going to want a back up of all of your papers. It can be almost impossible to try and recreate a special needs kids portfolio. You forget doctors names, numbers have changed, blah blah blah. Those rash of tornadoes blowing through the midwest this year should give you a better understanding of this. Those people lost everything in their homes, including any and all paperwork.

You should be updating your flash drive every 3 months. You can even make two flash drives, one that you keep with you and one that you give to someone else like a grandparent or place in a safety deposit box. That way if there is a fire, tornado, robbery, or whatever, someone else will have the information that you have painstakingly collected and organized.

I have found a few resources to help get you started with this project. They are listed below. Of course you should do your own research to find out what method, will best suit you and your needs. Just pick something that can be easily maintained, by anyone and don’t forget to update quarterly.

Resources & Links

Autism Speaks 100 day kit

Thinking Person’s Guide To Autism

Zazzle Autism Binders

Operation Autism: A Resource Guide For Military Families

TACA

**Please note that I am not affiliated with any of the above sites or organizations.  I do not receive any compensation or other perk from the sites listed above. I will add to these resources as I find them. If you know of a good one, email me.

Lanie